Okay. First that is 500% fucking bullshit. This was the title of an article I found on Facebook. Now where the fuck do you get off posting bullshit out on the internet like that. An eating disorder is very serious shit. If you are dating a girl with an eating disorder – GET HER HELP! SUPPORT HER. DO not fucking go out hunting someone with one purely so you win, you son of a bitch.
Now I am not going to give you a link because he does not deserve the traffic on his article. But of course it had to be a guy. Come on people! It’s 2017, why are we still bringing people down?!
The author’s first disclaimer is that he has dated girls with eating disorders in the past. Do you have one? No, so therefore not an expert. His second disclaimer is that it only applies to those who are a. skinny and b. anorexic. WTF?!
Now i will give you his list and his reasoning and then respond and explain my thoughts on the subject.
1. Her obsession over her body will improve her overall looks
“Nothing screams white girl problems louder than a good old-fashioned eating disorder… girls who spend inordinate mental and physical energy on her looks is rarely fat… while their body image is distorted on the inside, they stay trim and fit on the outside making them attractive”
My anorexia is a real thing. I didn’t decide at 5 hay lets get sick. Eating disorders are not a trend. People don’t decide that it’s the latest fashion so I don’t get that first bit. Also, as someone who is actually attracted to skeletal bodies, I find when you get as skinny as say, Euginia Coonie… That’s gross and scary. Go Google search anorexic bodies. It’s disturbing not attractive. I find it attractive and I am sick! Anorexics are not trim nor fit. They are far from healthy.
2. She costs less money
“…you can be confident your expense will be minimal… you can eat her food…”
Sorry but what the actual fuck. You would honestly knowingly take her out to a restaurant and put her under IMMENSE anxiety just to save money?! I just can’t even with this one.
3. She’s fragile and vulnerable
“…unearned high self-esteem are among the most unattractive traits in a girl… they’re eager to please and want your approval… she will quickly apologise for transgressions…”
You want a girl fragile? You sound like a predator. You want someone who will please you and you think that someone with an eating disorder is going to worship you? Guess what? Had an eating disorder and I did not worship the son of a bitch who needed to be powerful. In fact if that’s what you want you’ll find you’re worse than the girl starving herself.
4. Probably has money of her own
“There aren’t too many poor girls with eating disorders…. her instinct to please you will translate into her picking up tabs, coming to your door NOT empty-handed or buying you little gifts.”
I did not come from a family with a large income. We are a single income family and that income is a teachers salary. So no. I only got a job when I was 15 and have about $2000. And I don’t spend it and would not spend it all on you just cause I need YOUR approval. Eating disorders don’t translate to the instant need to please our partner. If that’s our need we have other problems apart from an eating disorder.
5. She’s better in bed
i don’t even know what to tell you about his opinion on this. But anxiety and malnutrition actually leads to an inability to have sex and leaves you without much of a sex drive at all. So someone with an eating disorder, especially anorexics.
That’s all I have to say about that article. It honestly made me so angry and he’s clearly a narcissistic asshole.
A Recovering Survivor